Of course, there is this feeling of being touched when asked to be one, either from your sister, bestfriend, or cousin. And everything seems to start like a journey. Even the thrills of parties along the way feels almost like its very incessant.
But soon as the proposal goes, means giving enough time, money, and patience. It comes also with the realization of being the competent bride's maid. Being a bride's maid is wonderful opportunity and experience, but it is also expected to drive women crazy.
Before the Wedding Day
"You want me to wear that?"
Ahh, the dreaded bridesmaid dress. It's the single most important, and costly, aspect of being a bridesmaid. First of all, a bridesmaid is required to pay for her dress and shoes. This can sometimes amount to quite a financial contribution. So if you find yourself in a money bind, the best thing to do is to discuss your concerns with the bride. She may be able to help pay for the alterations, or in some cases, the whole dress itself.
What if you hate it?
Most maids can attest to a closet full of bridesmaid dresses that never saw the light of day again since the wedding. Luckily, most designers today are moving away from those hideous creations of yesteryear. But if you truly believe the dress simply isn't you, and there is a consensus among all the bridesmaids, you can choose to approach the bride with your suggestions and opinions. If it's still a no-go, bite your tongue, and remember the mantra, "It's her wedding, and whatever makes her happy." Related dress duties include making yourself available for fittings, picking up the dress, and shoe shopping. Big-day beauty applies to bridesmaids too, so expect to get your hair and makeup done professionally, depending on the bride's wishes. This could mean further expense and devoting more time to appointments.
On the day of the wedding...
Make sure to be at the bridal site on time (of course).
Be prepared to help the bride, maid of honor, parents, and others. Helping the bride dress is a very important part of the big day. Is there a run in someone's stocking?
Be ready to dash out to the corner drug store to pick up a spare. The important thing is to keep cool. Most likely the bride will be a jumble of nerves and she'll need all of you to be her rock.
At the reception, remember to enjoy yourself -- you've earned it!
But the work's not quite over yet -- mingle with guests, transport gifts for the couple, even save a slice of the cake the bride didn't have time to sample. Again, be open and willing to help out. And then it's time to catch the bouquet!
-- special thanks to Diana Estigarribia --
